Earlier this week, I was chatting with one of my best friends about a wedding she went to over the weekend. While the wedding was beautiful and she enjoyed being there for one of her oldest friend, she couldn’t help but note on the number of children in attendance, despite the bride’s wish that the event be adult-only.
This got us talking and thinking: how do you clearly and politely indicate to your guests that you do not wish to have children at your wedding?
This requires some finesse, as simply putting “Adult Only” on the invitation or reply card could be seen as a bit harsh.
If you want to be subtle, state that you have reserved enough seats only for the number of adults you are inviting. Traditionally, if you only address the invitation to the adults of the household, your guest will know that only the adults are invited (if children are invited, invitation should be addressed with “Name and family”). Be careful of being too subtle though, as some may bring their children anyway. To protect against this, try confirming with guests about their attendance and remind them of your request that they not bring their children.
To be more direct, include a note in the invitation suite that politely outlines your intentions for an adult-on occasion. While this method is more likely to give you the desired outcome, know that some people may be offended. But it’s your wedding, and this is what you want, so it’s ok (as long as you are gracious about it). State plainly that you want to ensure everyone has a good time without the stress of children and kindly ask that parents make care arrangements for their kids that night. Adding a little tact and finesse to your request will make your guests most likely to acquiesce.
Have you been to a wedding that requested no children? One with children? Which would you prefer for your own wedding?
So your friend asked you to be a bridesmaid–you’re psyched, but not sure what’s expected? Bridesmaids are an important part of any wedding’s workings, playing every role from personal assistant to party-starter to emotional support system. To help give you a clearer idea of what to expect from your new role, here are a few of the main duties involved with being a bridesmaid!
1. Dress Shopping. Whether you’re going with the bride to shop for her gown, or giving input into the dress you’ll wear, the dresses of the wedding are a big part of bridesmaids duties. Be prepared to purchase your dress and accessories yourself, unless the bride offers to foot the bill.
2. Wedding Prep Assistant. You’ll be the bride’s favorite person ever if you help her with the many tedious (albeit necessary) wedding related tasks on her plate, such as stuffing invitations, bundling favors or logging RSVPs and wedding presents. Also, be willing to with last-minute errands to help the bride’s vision come to life.
3. Collaboration and Planning. Coordinate plans for the bachelorette part and the bridal shower with the other bridesmaids that the bride will love. Maybe even pool your cash for one big wedding present.
4. See and Be Seen. You will be expected to attend the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner–that’s a given. You may also be asked to stand in the receiving line, if the bride is having one or wants her maids with her. Another unspoken expectation for the bridesmaids: keep dancing. The bride likely wants a good party, so it’s part of your job to help her make that dream come true.
5. Be There the Bride. It’s a wild and fun time for her, so be there to support her emotionally and in her decisions throughout the planning of her big day. Also be willing to be there for her on the day of, whether you need to help her into her dress, get her something to drink, fix her train or bustle the train or help her in the restroom.
When the big day finally rolls around, you can be sure it will get really hectic really quick. In the commotion of everything going on throughout the day, it can be easy to let a few things slip through the cracks. There are a few things, though, that you should definitely not forget about as you prepare for your wedding!
1. Marriage License. You don’t want to go through all the pomp and circumstance just to have it all be not count legally, do you? A good idea would be to designate a friend or family member to be in charge of this important piece of paper.
2. Personal Effects. Remember to bring all of your jewelry, any family heirlooms being used, your perfume, your shoes…and your rings!
3. Decor Details. Having a memory table or specific votives on the tables? Put together a box of everything detail-wise that will be needed on your big day. Include specific instructions regarding where things go and how to set them up.
4. Vendor Tips. Make things easier on you, your coordinator (or whoever you designate for this responsibility) and your vendors by preparing envelopes with tips for each vendor ahead of time.
5. Take care of yourself. Eat. Drink water. Go to the bathroom. All are often overlooked, and all are very necessary. You will be kept extremely busy throughout the evening–between the actual ceremony, greeting guests, all the photo ops and dancing–so you will need pay attention to your needs beforehand.
Bonus Tip: Relax! Enjoy this day. Soak up everything. Smile and have fun. Don’t stress about the details and trust that those you have appointed will do their jobs. No matter what, remember what this day is about: you and your fiancé starting your life together.
We’ve been told since a young age that it’s bad luck for the groom to see his bride before the wedding. However, more and more brides nowadays are deciding to buck this traditional mindset in their weddings. First looks are increasing in popularity, so let’s take a look at what makes the first look such a sweet option!
First looks are a sweet opportunity for you and your man to steal a few minutes alone together before the craziness of the wedding starts. They also provide a chance to get the jitters out of the way! He may be ready for this, but he may also be a bundle of nerves. Seeing your pretty smile before the ceremony may put him at ease and allow for the both of your to fully absorb the moment without anxiety clouding your memory.
First looks also provide a chance to get all of your pictures out of the way before the ceremony–bride and groom, family, bridal party, etc–so you don’t have to waste time taking them before getting to enjoy the reception.
If you are cut from a more traditional cloth, though, then go ahead and skip the first look. It is completely fine to want your fiancé’s first sight of you to be at the end of the aisle! If you want your wedding to have a new-school style, though, consider doing a first look!
Where do you stand on first looks? Would you want to see your fiancé before the ceremony or would you rather keep things conventional?