So your friend asked you to be a bridesmaid–you’re psyched, but not sure what’s expected? Bridesmaids are an important part of any wedding’s workings, playing every role from personal assistant to party-starter to emotional support system. To help give you a clearer idea of what to expect from your new role, here are a few of the main duties involved with being a bridesmaid!
1. Dress Shopping. Whether you’re going with the bride to shop for her gown, or giving input into the dress you’ll wear, the dresses of the wedding are a big part of bridesmaids duties. Be prepared to purchase your dress and accessories yourself, unless the bride offers to foot the bill.
2. Wedding Prep Assistant. You’ll be the bride’s favorite person ever if you help her with the many tedious (albeit necessary) wedding related tasks on her plate, such as stuffing invitations, bundling favors or logging RSVPs and wedding presents. Also, be willing to with last-minute errands to help the bride’s vision come to life.
3. Collaboration and Planning. Coordinate plans for the bachelorette part and the bridal shower with the other bridesmaids that the bride will love. Maybe even pool your cash for one big wedding present.
4. See and Be Seen. You will be expected to attend the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner–that’s a given. You may also be asked to stand in the receiving line, if the bride is having one or wants her maids with her. Another unspoken expectation for the bridesmaids: keep dancing. The bride likely wants a good party, so it’s part of your job to help her make that dream come true.
5. Be There the Bride. It’s a wild and fun time for her, so be there to support her emotionally and in her decisions throughout the planning of her big day. Also be willing to be there for her on the day of, whether you need to help her into her dress, get her something to drink, fix her train or bustle the train or help her in the restroom.